This Journal’s goal is to allow men to spiritually assess situations about dating and marriage matters to avoid emotional distress, soul-ties residue, and marriage silent struggles. Because women are more autonomous and independent, they often need to love and to be loved; but since they can’t get the kind of love that they desire from their friends and family, they will work overtime seeking acceptance from their past rejections and soul-ties residue relationships. This might also be why men in this Journal seemed to benefit more from the support of an unhealthy romantic relationship because they were getting the support, they otherwise wouldn’t get from a woman that was more emotionally stable in her lifestyle.
Spiritually Assessing Soul-Tie Relationships Residue
I bless God to be able to come and speak to you today. But today is a really sensitive message. I want to talk to the men today. This Journal topic the Lord gave me is about the fate of Men Who Date or Marry Tied and Untried Women. I know I’m talking to some men who have been in this situation or is still facing situations even now as we speak. And, so I pray that the women that are reading or listening to this message would not be offended; but if you do, that means something needs to be healed inside of you. I bless God that I am allowed to talk directly to the men today. One reason is that it broke my heart to witness so many broken relationships and divorces. When I began to read in this first part of the text today in regards to our message, the verse texts in Proverbs Chapter 14:1 tells us, “Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.”
I mean when I looked at that text, I was quite moved by the message. And I just want you to know that my heart goes out to men today. As a survivor of family violence, I know that in this hour we have got to bring the men back to the priestly garment and to the priestly head of the home. We have so many women who are out of order. And why? It’s because of a number of reasons. Now, I don’t know if I’m going to get through with this whole message today. It’s so in-depth, this is why it’s taken me a while to get on this conference call line to talk to you all. Because I’ve been praying and seeking God about how to talk to you men, I wanted to share this part of my message because we have a lot of men who have been emotionally wounded by women.
So today, I want to talk to that wounded man. Hopefully, this message will build some strong strength in some men to help them understand what has happened to them emotionally. When we look at this part of the text in verse one of Proverbs 14, here we’re dealing with the situation that every wise woman will build her house. However, we’ve got to understand that we have a lot of silly women today that are dealing with a lot of emotional trauma and stressors that have caused men to be where they are today. Men need to realize that many of these women that they may be dating, or you may be married to are facing some of these issues. So we must pray that God would heal them. If you love them and you know that you trust and believe in God for their change, then nobody is saying this message is to press down a woman or anything like that.
I’m only trying to show you as a woman who has survived such a thing. I have been there where I have brow-beaten and talked down to men so bad to the point of anger that he felt like he was nothing but a little ant. And, I know I’m talking to some man that has been talked to that way; has been spoken to harshly about issues, and has come to adapt to being left alone. They feel that they need to understand this type of woman so they tolerate her ways. You might be in a relationship with this type of woman right now. You might be dating her or you may be married to this type of woman. If this woman is not fruitful, if this woman has not been healed in these areas that I’m going to discuss today relating to being content in singleness; this means being single and wholeness in their hearts.
Without evidence of the Fruit of the Spirit, this means that this person will pull down and control the house! I know I’m talking to somebody. This person will cause the house to be fragmented and cause the marriage to be troubled. They will also cause the family to have trouble in the family in many ways to the point that seems impossible to recover. Let’s talk briefly about the unruly woman. I want to talk to the men who are dealing with the Jezebel, controlling, and manipulative kind of woman who is notorious to be very unruly. I know I’m talking to you brother. I want to talk to the man who has decided to keep peace with Jezebel.
Let’s look at I John 4:1. The Bible tells us in I John4:1, “Beloved, believe not every spirit, but try the spirits whether they are of God: because many false prophets are gone out into the world.” This means that we must test the character to see whether they are of God. Many times when dating, we are so emotionally involved, we will only experience part of this person’s character. To try the spirit is very critical because we know that if there’s any sign of God in their lives, then we know that we are in the right mode to become sensitive to the fruit condition of their spirit. So, why is this so important? This same verse confirms how deceptive spirits are even seducing the very elect today. The scripture in I John 4:1 tells us how many false prophets are gone out into the world. With this in mind, we were going to be talking in relation to unruly, deceptive, and controlling spirits; but you know that if you say that you love God and you are seeking a woman to be your mate, or you have a woman that you believe that God has given you as a marriage mate, then you can trust God to deal with that relationship.